Reflecting My Goals For 2018

Reflecting My Goals For 2018

As January comes to a narrow close, it’s time to reflect on the past month. I thought now would be a good time to do this considering there’s still a good amount left of January for me to work out whatever kinks or knots I may not have gotten to yet this new year.

This is usually the time that our resolutions die off to wither away. We realize that we are who we are. We go back to our old habits. But this post is here to remind you of all the changes you wanted to make, why you wanted to make them, and maybe motivate you to keep on trying. For this post, I’m going to go through the list of resolutions I made for myself at the beginning of this year and see how far I’ve come. I may make this a monthly thing. We’ll see.

  1. The first thing I wanted to do was get rid of my toxic friends. I think I’ve been doing well in this aspect. Of course, this has led to more afternoons alone but I have to say that’s better than many nights miserable.
  2. This leads me to my next resolution: focusing on myself. The divine ability to be able to simply and only care about how I perceive myself. Have I accomplished this? Well, it’s honestly more of a day-to-day thing. Overall, I’d have to say “no”. I’m insecure, what can I say? I’m working on it though.
  3. Paying better attention to my needs has actually been the biggest change I’ve made. I spend plenty of time taking care of myself now. This includes: painting my nails, washing my face often, buying my own fruits and veggies, and being more positive.
  4. I’m still working on building my credit. We all are, right? I haven’t received my Secured Discover credit card yet, but it should be here any day now. Then, I can be a little bit more of an adult.
  5. As silly as it may sound, I made #5 on my list of resolutions to “shop more often”. Have I accomplished this? Well, as you saw in my Back to School (Winter) Haul, I’ve certainly been trying. I’ve been eating out more, buying clothes, books, and soon I’m going to get some new decor for my room. I’m more relaxed now about money than I ever have been before so I’d have to say this is a pretty good accomplishment.
  6. Just like anyone else, I made it a goal to be healthier this new year. I think I still have quite a ways to go, but overall yes, I’ve been much healthier. I’ve been eating better for sure. I’ve been coming up with creative ways to use the produce we have in our house. I may start doing recipes again on my blog if that’s something you may be interested in.
  7. Taking care of the planet is something I’ve always cared about. However, I’m ashamed to say I haven’t made conscious decisions about changing my behavior to better suit the environment. As I was reorganizing my room, I saw how much paper and plastic I throw away. I’m going to get some recycle bins. I need to do some research to figure out what I need to do to take this journey.
  8. Another way I wanted to take care of the planet is by donating. When I was buying my textbooks I had a chance to donate to schools in needs which I happily did. I love being asked to donate when checking out and usually always will. I haven’t put much thought into donating my time yet, but it’s definitely still something I want to be involved in. There’s plenty of places to get involved in my town, and one of the choices I’m most interested in is Habitat for Humanity.
  9. Being content is something my age group struggles with immensely. It’s interesting to talk about being content in a post full of changes I want to make. Excuse the irony, please. I am proud to say I’ve overcome this obstacle quicker than I thought. There are still rough patches I go through where I compare myself to others and feel bad. It’s easier for me to get through those now though. I don’t spend as much time dwelling in that negative state of mind.
  10. Being nicer has also been an attitude change for me. I must say I haven’t been tested like I once was. I’ve been praying a lot for God to help me with my thoughts, and I’ve noticed a huge difference.
  11. Being meaning (I’m sorry, standing up for myself) is a bit of a grey area for me. I know I’ve been a tad bit more assertive. Perhaps this is why I haven’t needed to lash out. Keep in mind I’ve also gotten rid of my toxic friends, so the need to constantly defend myself has died down significantly.
  12. And perhaps the biggest, most monumental change I’ve made is not freaking out. Close family members and friends of mine are familiar with the amount of pressure I put on myself. I know where that roots from finally, which makes it easier for me to slow down and breathe. Now, when I mess up I can shrug and say “I’ll learn from this”. Now, when it takes me longer than expected, I know it’ll really all be worth it.
  13. Drawing. Drawing, I haven’t been doing. I have been painting more, thanks to my boyfriend. That’s just as important, right?
  14. Writing. Now writing, I’ve been investing a lot of time in. Whether it’s here on this blog, or at work, or in my journal, I write nearly every day. I’m proud to say so.
  15. Reading has also been something I’m up to. I started the Harry Potter series and have also been reading poetry books. I’m super excited to keep going.
  16. An important thing I wanted to start making a priority is learning. Learning for me lately is happening organically. I’ve been learning new vocabulary through reading. I’m learning so much from my new job. And also, schooling has officially started up again for the Spring semester so soon, I’ll be learning new stuff by the hour.
  17. Traveling is also something I’ve seen come to life. My boyfriend and I have been taking small trips here, there, and everywhere almost every weekend. They haven’t been long, far away trips, but meaningful travel nonetheless.
  18. And lastly, drinking more water has been taken care of. I’m currently drinking my weight in water as we converse.

 

I encourage you to go over your own list of goals. Dig it out from the bottom of your nightstand and pin it above your light switch. You’re doing great. Don’t give up on yourself!

As you can see, I haven’t accomplished every single thing I wanted to. And that’s okay. Part of this process is seeing who you are and everything you can handle. It’ll take plenty of time to make changes or form habits. Don’t let yourself down. Make time for the important things and everything else will fall into place. Have fun out there.

The Future is Female

The Future is Female

Is anyone else noticing all this girl power out here lately? I mean, we are really blooming ladies, and it’s quite the sight to see. I love supporting my fellow female artists in their endeavors and getting inspiration from them. Today, we’re going to be talking about some beautiful, smart, and creative women, and what they’re up to. A little while ago I wrote a post about getting inspired, and wrote about some other bloggers and Youtubers in that post. I’ll link it here, for those of you that are interested.

Music:

Kailee Morgue:

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I’ve been following Kailee for a long time. I found her covers on Twitter, and it’s been quite interesting watching her grow over time. She recently was signed, which is really amazing news! She showcased a little snippet of her song “Medusa” on Twitter (forever ago), and ever since then we’ve all been anxiously waiting for it’s release. The song has been completed, and I just wanted to share this piece of art with you all. Click the image above to take you to “Medusa”, the captivating lyric video.

Charlotte Cardin:

You’ve heard of Lana Del Rey. You’ve obsessed over Lorde. Now, get ready for Charlotte Cardin!!!!

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Charlotte Cardin is a canadian artist. She’s 22 years old, and her voice packs a nostalgic punch. Her vocals take me all the way back to the 20’s, as if I lived there once. Her music is a mix between Jazz, Pop, and Electro. She releases music in both English and French. I love the way she uses her voice. She has a unique sound, and her lyrics are insanely poetic. My favorite songs of hers are Dirty Dirty, Big Boy, and The Kids. If you’re ever in a mood, put on Charlotte Cardin and get lost in your emotions.

Billie Eilish:

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15!!!!! This honey bee is FIFTEEN YEARS OLD!!! I didn’t know this until 5 seconds ago and I’ve been geeking out about her album all morning. That just makes everything I’ve heard so far so much more impressive. She’s so honest. She’s so brutal. I love this young artist and I’m excited for her future. I know she has a lot of growing to do. Like, she’s amazing, no doubt. But she still has a lot of learning and polishing, which means there’s a lot to expect from her. Catching an artist in this stage is really hard, and I’m excited to see her blossom. Keep your eye on Billie. She’s not going anywhere, except all the way to the top.

Bloggers:

Hannah Louise

Hannah Louise is a fashion blogger who dabbles into lifestyle and all other kinds of things. She has this bright red hair I love. I found her on Instagram. Her feed is full of colors. I absolutely love how she plays with colors and silhouettes. She asked in her About page to not use her pictures without asking, so I don’t want to infringe on her request. If you’re into the city girl vibe, definitely check out her website. She has an upscale chic with a downtown play persona that only she possesses. Hannah Louise definitely knows who she is, and that kind of self awareness is really inspiring.

Morgan

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I found Mostly Morgan on Youtube. She’s a fashion, travel, and lifestyle blog. What I love most about her is how she is very transparent about her blogging career. She doesn’t mind sharing her own personal tips and tricks about how she got where she is today. She’s 22 years old. She built her blog her freshman year of her college career. She has been blogging for 3 years and she now does it full time. She’s basically exactly what I want to be in the near future. So I thought I’d share her, her story, and how she’s living proof that my dream is possible. I can visualize it through her.

Kelsey Simone 

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Kelsey Simone is the definition of Bad and Boujee if I ever did see it. She constantly hands out tips on being a bad b*tch on a budget (always helping out her fellow female). She has the best personality. I love watching her videos because she is just adorable. I wish I knew her in real life. I’ve been watching her on Youtube for awhile, but it’s awesome to see she has a blog as well. She is also a dream come true to me. She’s really come a long way. It’s nice because you can see how much work she puts into all her videos and her blog.

I’ve just been really trying to surround myself with inspirational characters. At times, it can be easy to look at other people’s success and get discouraged. I tend to sink into this pit of “Oh, I’ll never have that.” or start to feel really negative about the person I’m watching. But truly, this only turns that negativity back into my work.

A honest example of this is some time ago, recently, I was watching Kelsey Simone. She was doing an unboxing of the PR gifts she received from beauty companies. I started to feel jealous, because obviously it would be amazing to have random makeup delivered to your door for free. I started to think about my work, and how I wished that was me. But then, I realized that Kelsey has been working at this for a long time. She’s works very hard in all the things she makes for her viewers and readers. It would be a shame if her talent wasn’t noticed. And I thought to myself “She deserves it”. Ever since then, it’s been easier for me to look at others as inspiration instead of competition. We’re all out here just trying to live our best lives. Seeing these powerful and beautiful girl bosses flooding the music, the internet, and Youtube industries just really feels my heart with hope.

Thank you for reading this post and making it all the way to the end. Please, please, PLEASE check out some of these women. They really do some incredible things and deserve the praise. This post is completely unsponsored and written from the heart. I’ve been following these women for a little time now and am so proud to have found them.

That’s all for now folks. See you again on Monday for some fashion. Don’t miss it!!

How to: Get Inspired

How to: Get Inspired

Getting inspired is an important aspect for anyone. All of us have certain goals that we look to accomplish, but it’s easy to stray away or lose ideas. So today I want to talk to y’all about how I stay inspired. I go through slumps where it’s like no matter how hard I try, there just isn’t much to keep me going. Lately, this slump has subsided, and I plan on keeping it that way. So here’s my course of action to stay on top of my game, all day. And I want to share it with you. I hope it helps. You deserve it.



  1. Look for role models

One of my favorite ways of remembering why I work so hard on things I love to do is relating to people who do exactly that. I go on Youtube all the time and find certain Youtubers who talk about the things that interest me. It’s a good way to get new ideas, learn new things, and support someone else instead of constantly thinking about my own success. Here’s a list of Youtubers I love.

  • Kalyn Nicholson

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Isn’t she beautiful??? She is my most favorite inspiration right now. She does videos that relate to fashion, beauty, and her overall life. Her videos are very personal; she has a lot of “sit-down” style videos. Right now she is in the middle of participating in Youtober, which means she is uploading a new video every day this month. It’s quite honestly the best time of year. She has a video about getting inspired as well, which I’ll link here, so you can see her ideas. They may resonate significantly with you.

  • Kallie Kaiser

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Kallie Kaiser is an amazing fashion inspiration. She is extremely adventurous with her style. Kallie always says in her hauls that she usually goes for clothing that is unique and crazy. She has shoes with patches, jeans with a star seam on the butt, and many things I don’t always find cute, but definitely admire her out-going opinion. I did a post on her before saying she was a major style icon of mine, and that obviously remains true. Watching her put together pieces I wouldn’t normally consider makes me branch out and try something insane. She is like the definition of inspiration. Her haul videos are my absolute favorite. Here’s her most recent.

  • Kathleen Lights

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Kathleen Lights is the perfect example of a Girl Boss. She has done so many collaborations; she’s a major influence in the beauty world. KL even has her own nail polish line, which is totally cruelty free. I love how her personality shines through in her videos. She even has adorable catch phrases that her fans repeat. She is an inspiration to me because she talks about her rise to success sometimes, saying how it took her awhile to get where she is. This kind of gives an insight that overnight success really doesn’t happen all the time even though it seems like it every now and again. She is a really sweet woman, and watching her grow educates me a lot. I admire her work, and how she is capable of learning from her mistakes. Click on her photo to watch a recent video of hers.

  • Luanna Perez

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I’ve been following Luanna’s blog since I was a freshman in high school. She was there to motivate me all through my 90’s grunge page, and no matter how much I grow up, I always find myself going back to her website. Recently, I discovered she has a Youtube channel which is awesome. I get to see inside the life of an idol of mine. She is like Kallie in the sense that they are completely different from anyone else. Luanna is the type of person to wear platform shoes with a sundress. She really inspired my imagination during high school. Now that I’ve grown up, I can really explore the creativity she played a part in providing in me. She made an amazing video on Back to School outfits. Click on the photo to redirect you!

2. Rearrange your life

People often don’t take into account the effect your environment has on your own confidence. When your room isn’t exactly how you like it, or it gets extremely cluttered, getting overwhelmed is almost guaranteed. I have a HUGE problem with collecting things and not being able to let things go. I basically dug my own hole. I was annoyed being in my room. It became a place I just slept instead of a place to create. However, when my aunt generously gave me furniture she no longer wanted, I was given the opportunity to reorganize my stuff and throw away even more things. This made me slow down to realize what I actually use, and get rid of the things I could give away or sell. I switched around how I had everything set up. Now I know where everything is. It’s a great way to find the supplies that give me inspiration.

3. Talking to friends and family about goals

I am lucky enough to have a very loving support system. My family always loves hearing about my plans for my future and what I’m up to. Vocalizing my goals helps me hold myself accountable to what I want to accomplish. Having people rooting for me makes me work even harder.

Dakota is a huge reason why I keep going. He always loves taking pictures with me. I talk to him all the time about my blog and he just listens and gives me his opinion. I trust his opinions because he honestly knows me so well. It’s gotten to the point where I will work on this blog and he’ll play his video games, just enjoying each other’s presence. We go on adventures all the time, which I love sharing with all of you. Without him, I would’ve gotten so discouraged and frustrated. He really has helped me get over my own insecurities.

I also have my loving family to talk to. I love discussing my hopes and dreams with my family. My cousin is another role model of mine. She’s independent, strong, and totally accomplishing her goals! I’m so proud of my cousin Megan, and knowing there’s someone I can catch up with all the time is reassuring in itself. I love you Meg!!!!!

My mom, dad, and brother also have my back at all times. They know what I’m capable of even more than I do. They know that I can do anything and everything I talk about doing. When I start getting overwhelmed about all my creative interests, my mom is always there to talk me out of stressing out over time management. She’s like a universal 8-ball. She knows the proper answer to everything. My dad is my own personal motivational speaker. If there’s anybody I need to get me back into my kick-ass mood, it’s him. And my brother is kind of like a built in best friend/ therapist. Any worries at all, one talk to him is my go-to cure. Once you have yourself a support system, honestly anything is possible. I also have coworkers (Lametria and LaSandra, I’m talking about you) and friends (Hailey you deserve a standing ovation), that constantly give me speeches and talks. I’d be no where without your guidance and enthusiasm.

4. Motivating yourself

I can hear your thoughts. You’re thinking “okay Emma, easier said than done”. I don’t disagree with you. Earlier in this post I mentioned how I get discouraged. This happens everyday. It may not seem like it, but I do put an insane amount of pressure on myself. In the morning, I wake up and say “I’m gonna get through the day!” I walk to my car after class and think “Alrighty, what to accomplish next?” I’m pretty much constantly talking to myself at every single time of the day, even though that may seem kind of weird. But honestly, if I don’t, I get really down on myself.

Pushing yourself through your failures is a part of life. This is something I’m trying to learn. Every time I mess up, I just start beating myself up. This is toxic. Would I be friends with someone that said, “Of course you failed”, or “if you can’t do something as simple as that, how will you be able to accomplish what matters”? No, I would never be friends with someone who put me down so bad. So why am I not my own best friend? That’s something I’m working on, and I feel like everyone should.

5. Don’t forget to pray

Some of you may not be religious people, which to each their own. However, I know that everything I’m being blessed with lately is completely given to me by God’s grace. When I start ignoring His voice, I find myself faltering. It’s when I completely trust Him with all situations, everything turns out just fine. It’s gotten to the point where I’ll be stressing about something so much and then all the sudden I just think to myself “Okay God, I’m tired of worrying about this. Take it. I don’t want it anymore.” If I catch my thoughts dwelling on the subject, I’ll shake the thought away to remind myself God is handling it. That’s basically all I can do at this point. Whenever I try taking over, I always fall flat. But when He has my trust, things turn out fantastic.

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I really hope everyone finds something they can use in this post. I know videos and posts like these help get me through tough situations all the time. These tips are things I’ve been doing in my daily life to try to propel me forward. It’s unclear if the feeling is universal, but it would appear being in your early 20’s, (I’ll be 20 in February), is such a pressuring time. It’s like we all need to figure out here and now who we are. Seeing all these overnight successes can be daunting. But don’t worry. Everyone has their own unique path. We just have to walk it.


I hope I got you inspired. I love y’all.

Until next time,